In the words of a modern father, “every parent in today’s generation has to go through the difficult phase of letting his daughter go, even before she is married.” There are multiple pros to leaving your nest, but the biggest con is to not being able to see or speak to your dad everyday when you move away to make a living or to study. But we all try to remain as close to him as we can.
So here are a few things that I learned from my dad that helped me stand on my feet:
The world of Equals
With today’s generation raising their flags about feminism, any parent would be worried about how to raise their kids right! People who had a co-ed household growing up would know what I mean. Your father plays a very important role in teaching you the importance of being equals in everything. How he treats his daughter and wife sets an example for both their kids, be it son or daughter.
Having a Dad that understands the responsibilities and priorities is a lucky situation to have. I had a lucky childhood in these terms. Me and my brother have both learned that we are not equals, we are both different individuals and should be treated differently. The goals and duties are different and we got what we deserved. No one was privileged. And in some way that made us feel responsible for ourselves.
Every child deserves to have a father who not only drives them to look forward to the future and set goals but to also teach their kids to have fun while doing it. We were always doing things together that showed us how important it is to know things you are not learning in school. We always helped our dad in household work, like repainting our cooler every summer, wiring the lighting for Diwali decor, removing weeds from our backyard, picking mangoes during the storm.
One of the greatest adventure of my life was setting up a DIY swing on a 20 ft tall mango tree. It was greatest not just because it was fun climbing a huge tree but because we did it together. That swing lasted for 15 years until that branch fell in a storm! Makes a fun story to tell during family get-togethers.
To marry or not to marry
Most girls growing up look up to their male models and set goals for their future partners. Dads set a bar with their qualities, attitude and even looks. It highly depends on your father whether you’ll marry someone with a mustache or not. We forget that maybe if he is such a good Dad we want to be him, we should try to absorb some of his experiences, qualities and knowledge too. Learn from what their relationship was like.
What did you learn from your dad that makes him so special? Share your experiences and learning with us!